There’s a quote I heard recently that really stopped me in my tracks.


“Stress isn’t something we have. It’s something we do.”


And honestly?

At first, I kept this revelation to myself

Because life does contain difficult situations.

Responsibilities.

Uncertainty.

Real things that need handling.

And I didn't think people would appreciate me sharing this


But the more I sat with it…

the more I realised something.


The external situation and our internal response to it…

are not always the same thing.

And maybe someone needed to hear this too

The latter part of this quote states that we are responsible for our stress and that we made a choice to be like this

But did we ?

The Realisation ...

I’ve seen this very closely recently while helping my Dad.

As some of you know, he’s now in a care home and I’m in the process of managing the sale of his house and handling everything that comes with that among other issues

And no matter what gets resolved …

Another "thing" crops up that needs sorting and even though he doesn't know the half of it that I have been dealing with and despite him saying he can't do any of this himself every time I visit him he says things like ...


“If this gets sorted, I’ll relax.”

“If that gets fixed, I’ll sleep.”

“When this sale goes through, I’ll feel better.”


But I’ve started to realise something difficult but important:


Sometimes stress becomes a subconscious habit of being.


Every "so called" problem my Dad has always gets resolved but try as I might to highlight this to him and reassure him as soon as one thing gets resolved he transfers his stress to a new issue


Even when one problem disappears…

his mind immediately searches for the next thing to worry about.

And he has no idea he is doing this and he has the Power to choose differently but if he is not seeing it as a choice he is making but as something that is happening to him

He is not seeing the Power within him

And how many of us are doing this ?


I can tell you now when I listened to his latest terrade of how much he loves it in his new abode but until the house gets sold he won't sleep better ....


I could tell my the look on his face he did not appreciate me telling him about my newly found quote and the impact it had on me and that stress is not something that we have

It is something we choose to do ...


The Shift

And it has made me reflect on my own life too.

Because I’ve done this myself in my life and business in the past

Most of my decisions were made out of a subconscious fear


“If I could just make more money…”

"If I get a better paying job"

"If I could build this online income stream"

“If I could just get the funnel working…”

“If I could just sign more people up…”


Believing peace existed somewhere after the next result.

And was I subconsciously programmed like this from the environment of Fear I grew up in?


100% Yes ....


My Mother is no longer on this physical plane but one of my earliest memories is finding my Mum doing sums on little note pads in the middle of the night


In my naivety I would think "Why does Mum need to do Maths? She's not in school any more?"


But now I know. Mum was trying to balance the books. Work out how she was going to make ends meet. Pay the bills etc ... and putting all her focused energy on lack and limitation


I was completely unaware that I was growing up in the environment of Poverty Consciousness and being programmed


And neither did my poor parents either


But now?

I see it differently.


As some of you may know from previous editions of this Newsletter or my Podcast "The Fab Over Forty Show"

In the early days of building an Online Body of Work I was subconsciously acting out of Fear

And now ...

I am learning to lean into the habit of Introspection more and more to identify negative thought patterns and reprogram them and change my beliefs

And I feel we are living in a fantastic era ...


My parents, perhaps like yours had no idea about things like Poor Wealth Consciousness

But now we are surrounded by an Abundance of information and sources that make us aware of thought patterns that are not serving us and how to change them

Talking of which


Fear Is A Signal

I recently heard something else that really landed for me.

That fear and anxiety can actually be signals that we’re out of alignment.

Not punishment.

Not failure.

Just awareness.

And an opportunity to make us aware to Realign and Rise back into a Higher Faith Filled Energy


And now when I notice myself feeling anxious or overwhelmed…

instead of spiralling deeper into it…

I pause.

I breathe

I don't panic and immediately try to fix things


And I ask myself:

👉 “Am I choosing fear right now… or faith?”


The Deeper Truth

And this has changed the way I approach everything.

Even learning.

Even investing in myself.


Because I used to buy courses and programmes from a place of desperation.


“This will fix things.”

“This will solve my lack.”

“This will finally make everything work.”


But that energy feels very different now.


Now I approach things from curiosity.

Expansion.

Interest.


More like:

👉 “This looks interesting.”

👉 “I’d love to learn this skill.”

👉 “This could enhance what I’m already building.”


Working on the inside first ...

And honestly?

That shift in energy changes everything.


Peace isn’t waiting for us after everything gets fixed.

Peace is a choice we can decide to have and practise now and rest in the reassurance everything is always working out for us ...

Which leads me on to my most automatic mantra I say to myself on auto pilot ..


"Everything is Working out for Me, Everything is Always Working out for me?


Please feel free to borrow it ...


If you feel stress rise up in you

Use it as a signal that you are out of alignment and that there is nothing to worry about

When we connect and align to the unseen energy that is always with us. Supporting us and say ....

"Everything is Working out for Me, Everything is Always Working out for me?

Closing this edition out

I’m not saying difficult things don’t happen.

They do.

They still will.


But I am starting to believe we have more choice in how we respond than we realise.

And maybe alignment isn’t about controlling life perfectly…

Maybe it’s about learning not to abandon ourselves inside of it.


If you would like a simple tool to help bring awareness, alignment and action to come together?

Please help yourself to the Aligned and Free Reset

👉 Aligned and Free Reset


With Love

Alison xx

On a Mission to Serve Millions of Women to Remember ~ Realign ~ Rise in Their True Power
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