If You Are Not Dead You Are Winning

I was in privileged position to Listen to Rachel Hollis be interviewed by Vishen Lakhiani a few days ago and Rachel’s words are still rattling around in my brain ~ people are focusing on 2021 because 2020 was “so terrible” news flash shit happened before 2020 and it will happen in 2021 and beyond, sorry guys ~ we just have to deal with it ~ please be aware I Am paraphrasing because I can’t remember it word for word but I will listen again when it goes Live as a podcast 

The interview also discussed putting our real selfs out there regardless of the results and when I heard her say this I thought thank you for your honesty and maybe it’s time I should voice my opinion 

I am truly sorry for anyone who has lost a loved one or a job or a business during this time but people died and businesses failed and people lost jobs before the virus and maybe we all got a little numb to these everyday occurrences and we needed to be reminded of this fact and become more compassionate but put a label “Global Pandemic” over it and it seems like none of these events ever happened outside this situation and it has been wrapped in a blanket of fear and overwhelm and I am seriously concerned for people’s health and Mindset well-being especially when focused on the end of the Covid rainbow when we get to the other side and shit still happens but people’s mindset are even less able to cope ~ that’s the real tragedy here 

I thankfully had been passionate about personal development decades before the current situation evolved and carry out a morning routine practice that has supported me but I see people who have put skin in the game, or have accepted their cheese has moved and pivoted their personal situations and who also have experienced massive personal loss and disruption are feeling guilty to express they are ok or have succeeded even prospered during this time

Something you don’t know about me ~ I try to stick to a To Do list but often get wildly off course and a long time ago that would have riddled me with guilt and anxiety and negative self talk but these days I am a dichotomy of wanting to be more organised and stick to a list and more recently I am experimenting with surrendering to flow and acting on and tuning in to Intuition and when my copy of Rachel’s book arrived it brought back the interview and I felt an inspiration to write this post however it was quite late in the day and I decided I would post it the next day after transferring it from Evernote where I write everything first in to my blog platform

The original copy ended a few sentences back and was titled something else then but then :I didn’t see this coming happened …..

quick note: acting in flow creates a lot less stress and guilt when I diverge away from the ‘To Do’ list

So one of my facets is I have a weird and wonderful shop when I paint and sell hand carved wooden ducks and I also create bespoke orders and before I had time to transfer this copy a client came into enquire about personalised gift idea

When I took the client details I enquired if they had a daughter by a particular name recognising their’s and they asked what made me ask that and I explained who I was and they used to work with and be friends with my Mother and during my teens I had become close friends with their daughter until families came along etc and we lost touch

The lady then got emotional and apologised and said “I’m sorry, I still get upset when I think about them and it’s been 5 years now. Silly I know” Picking up on my confusion I guessed, they continued “You don’t know XXXX died 5 years ago of cancer”

Whoah ~ I definitely did not see that coming and now we are both moved emotionally

After the lady left the shop and I went to sit at my work station I guess instigated about current events and I thought about this post and how this beautiful kind soul lost their physical life 5 years earlier I literally said out loud “Well, if you are alive your are still Fxxking Winning”

Meaning what ever the situation if you have the luxury of breath in your lungs you are still winning because you can literally change your life by the quality of your next thought, and the next and next and the next

My book has recently arrived so I don’t know the exact contents but the subtitle tells me it’s just the antidote some people need right now so I have dropped the link below to preview it for yourself

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😡 Beware the power of Negative Media 😡

I saw this head line screenshot and posted into a Facebook group and despite not watching the news or reading newspapers because I know there intention of ‘scare and awe’ it sent me searching the internet for the full article

Reason being, today I am supposed to be flying to Crete by EasyJet but the flights have been cancelled and we have claimed a voucher to travel in 2021 but if they are… I am writing in air quotes now “hanging by a thread” I didn’t want to lose the hundreds of pounds sitting in their account waiting to be transferred to another flight

I read the article but a couple things confused me so I read it again and some parts a third time to digest it as best I could and I started analyse the data and the way I read it EasyJet are doing all they can to manage the fall out of Covid-19 and appreciate their cheese has been moved so doing what they can to minimise the impact to stay afloat and yes they are very vulnerable as most businesses are and if they don’t have a great summer next year there future maybe questionable but I’m sure that’s the same for most businesses and if they are aware if they don’t have a successful summer things are drastic that means they aren’t possibly going bust right this second

I to have had to pivot due to low footfall and I know businesses that are also evaluating their futures and some people’s mindsets have changed completely due to these unprecedented times and have chosen to have a better quality of life because of this situation and give up their businesses but headlines like this could send people as I initially did, think of racing for a refund or not book Travel for 2021and if that happened that would probably send EasyJet through the loop and for what …. somebody’s “Good Attention Grabbing Headline”

And that’s why I wrote beware the power of the media

If businesses are effected by the power of the press to create a “Headline” that means many people’s Jobs are effected and put at risk, then their families and people’s well-being as they navigate the minefield of un-employment and how they are going to support their family ~ buts that’s ok isn’t it ~ they got their scoop, their story, their salary from their Jurassic style journalism 🤬

Two books I recommend at this strange time in history are “Who moved my cheese” by Dr Spencer Johnson and “The Obstacle is the Way” by Ryan Holiday that will help get your brain focused on solutions rather than fear and thank Goodness I spent many a year reading Personal Development books prior to this time because the pre-personal development Ali would definitely not have positively pivoted and most likely have been sat huddled in the corner of the sofa wanting the world to go away ~ how do I know ???

Because that is how I dealt with the world before working on my Mindset and don’t believe me… this is not a sales tactic by the way but that full previously untold story is coming out in a book whose launch date is imminent and that would have definitely not have happened to that Ali – a book launch 😱

I am an Amazon Affiliate and I have dropped Amazon links for the book mentioned above for quick, easy access. Please note I do not make any money from the customer ~ Affiliates receive any commission earned from the product supplier

If you would like any advice on how to start a Personal Development journey or good books to read do not hesitate to drop me a DM because now … my purpose is to serve and help people find their more purposeful positive life and remember “Your dream is not over until you’re dead”

PS: first tip !!! Stop watching the news and reading newspapers 😉

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